Tuesday, 17 June 2014

Try, Try Again And Then Let Go

I blessed God the day I found her again. And Mark Zuckerberg too. She was a primary school friend. One I loved like a sister. We lost touch after I moved cities, so it was really heartwarming to reconnect. I added her, got her digits and called her pronto. She picked up quite alright but I seemed to be the only one excited by the call. I had to say my name several times to be sure I had not called someone else by mistake. She sounded like we had just had lunch after living together for 5 years – almost bored.

I was a bit disappointed but thought maybe she had had a bad day. After calling a few more times and getting the same response, it occurred to me that the time to let go had finally arrived.

Who we make and remain friends with should be our personal prerogative. It should never be by force. Sometimes, you just want to leave the past where it is and those who try to reconnect take you to a place you don’t want to go. Sometimes you don’t want to reconnect because... 

I have realized that for everything there is a time and a season and that includes friendships. Some last a lifetime, some just a fleeting moment. People come into your life, leave their mark and move on to other things. That should be enough. Be discerning to know when to hang on and when to respect yourself and move on. Leave people who want to be left alone, alone.

They say when you know the purpose of a thing your heart will be at peace. I agree. Even though she is no longer a part of my life, I remember her with fondness and thank her for giving me, even decades after, a reason to close my eyes and smile.

©Naomi Lucas
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