Wednesday, 30 October 2013

On Low Self Esteem...

A friend and I had a meeting yesterday to discuss a training programme for young people. Being very active with the youth population, he made an observation about the prevalence of something I have noticed since I was strong enough to trek to school - low self esteem. I see it every single place I turn.

Irrespective of what google or the dictionaries say, I'll define low self esteem as an underestimation of oneself in every single sphere of life. Low self esteem is the highest form of selfishness there is. It is the most toxic form of spiritual sickness I've seen. The mind concentrates only on limitations and sees stumbling blocks instead of opportunities.

Low self esteem isn't bound by class restrictions. A lion with low self esteem will look in the mirror and see a cat. In humans, I've seen people with really great ideas dump them because they were intimidated by its potential. 

Life happens to those with low self esteem. They are perpetual victims that remain in the clutches of the environment in which they are supposed to thrive.

To those with low self esteem, life wasn't, isn't and will not be fair, everyone else is having a ball and the grass is always greener on the other side; the Jones' look better, drive better, live better, wear better and travel better. Sadly, the Jones' think they are the Jones'.

Low self esteem manifests in government bureaucracy and the cutthroat, survival of the fittest competition in corporate circles. Its a mentality that says if I can't have it, then you can't. And then once I do, I want more...

Low self esteem is a vicious  cycle. Its a self fulfilling doomsday prophecy that completes all our deepest fears and worst nightmares.

Anyone who aspires to leadership or wants to live healthy and has this issue should deal with it first. Leadership can only begin once there's mastery of self.  The reason Nigeria annoys every single one of us the way it does today is because people who should be in rehab are dictating the pace at which the rest of us should move.

Breaking free from such a debilitating disease requires an unshackling of the mind, a freeing of the soul and an appreciation of all one is and has. It means living life one day at a time and turning in for the night knowing tomorrow will be better because you know so.

©Naomi Lucas




6 comments:

Emmanuel said...

You are doing a great job with your blog. Please add a Share function so we can share your article on facebook apart from liking it.

Naomi Lucas said...

Hi Emmanuel, its surprising you can't see the share functions, they are under each blog post. Alternatively, just copy and paste the url. Thanks for sharing :)

Emmanuel said...

Good day ma'am, I can see the share function for Google+ as well as for Twitter but Facebook is a like function. What I mean is for it to be a share function so we can share your articles on Facebook as well. Alternatively we can share the URL as suggested. You are welcome ma'am

Naomi Lucas said...

Oh really? Thanks for the info, i assumed the like function gives you the option to share. I'll try and work on it from this end. Thanks for letting me know. And I'm Naomi, not ma'am :)

Adeola Mbah said...

Great Naomi, I always look forward to ur write-ups.

Naomi Lucas said...

Thanks Adeola :)